Praying for Your Marriage
I can’t help but wonder if there are two types of married couples out there. Those who believe “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it…” And those who take this scripture to heart – 1 Thessalonians 5:17 “Pray constantly.” (Yes, that’s the whole verse, and it doesn’t differentiate a topic, just pray!)
Consider it in the Amplified Version
I’m more than a little passionate about praying about for my marriage because I’ve seen what it can do so many times. I’m not just saying that. I have prayed very specifically about my marriage, and seen God answer just as specifically in ways that only He could. (I’d love to tell you more, but I’m afraid a whole book wouldn’t cover it!) But here is the thing, I think sometimes, especially when marriages are in a state of newlywed bliss (aka sunshine and rainbows) we don’t know how to pray for our marriages.
Things are going great, or at least not falling apart, and we think, “well, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” And we let it go at that. But I believe (because the scripture in 1 Thessalonians tells us) that God wants us to be praying about all aspects of our lives all the time. After reading that verse, and experiencing answered prayers, I’m convinced that God wants us to “pray constantly” about our marriages.
There are so many ways to pray for your marriage! You can pray a specific scripture, that addresses something you or your spouse need help with. (Like Ephesians 4:1-3, Colossians 3:13, 1 Corinthians 7, or perhaps something from Song of Solomon?) You can also pray about how to pray! (God will hear and answer a simple, sincere, “God, teach me to be a godly wife. Teach me how to pray about my marriage.”)
Praying Your Wedding Vows
They may have been spoken nearly six years ago, but since I learned to pray with them, they rarely leave my mind! We chose traditional vows, for our wedding, but chances are you could adapt self-written vows to pray over your marriage just as easily! But for today I want to quickly share with you one of my favorite ways to pray for my marriage. It’s so simple, but when I pray this way, it comes from the deepest place, in my heart of hearts because of my love for my husband. You CAN pray …. your marriage vows!
We’re able to claim this (and so enjoy this marriage!) because we prayed through those days, and we’re praying still! It was broke, we prayed, God fixed it and now we pray constantly.
Does a healed or healthy marriage sound appealing?
Try some small steps that have big results, like praying your marriage vows over your relationship! Here’s how:
- Print marriage vows with your names inserted. (Use pet names if you’d like to make it extra special!) Post them around your house, ask your husband to keep a copy in his vehicle to read often.
- Read them once a day. Seek them out whenever your relationship is facing an obstacle. (If you are at a rough spot ask God to make the vows sincere in your heart.)
- Consider making a customized marriage vow prayer. Place it in a spot that you and your husband will agree to pray with each other every day!
To get you started here are some example marriage vow prayers! (Based on traditional vows.)
Just click the pic to see the whole prayers
& to download and print!
Will you start praying your vows, especially when you don’t know how to pray? Do you have a favorite verse that you pray over your marriage? Share it with us by leaving a comment!
Bonus Tip: If your husband is interested, consider sitting down together and writing new, special, marriage vows as a “refresh” of your promises to one another. Then begin praying those over your marriage! Or stop by our popular Text Messages for Spouses post to get some encouraging and flirty texting ideas for your husband!
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All praise and glory to God for the wonderful thing that you are doing here Shirley! I am on the count down to my wedding day and searching for christ-centred information and advice about becoming a godly wife to my betrothed. Thank you for being vulnerable, honestly sharing and wanting to help others. May God truly bless you and your family 🙂 Violet
Violet, thank you so much for your encouraging words! It is so nice to know that someone was blessed through my passion for marriage. I pray God’s favor and blessing on you and your fiance as you begin your marriage journey. Always remember, you don’t just make your vow to your husband-to-be, you make it to God in Heaven. 🙂 Be blessed, and most of all enjoy your big day!
What a wonderful, blessed idea! Thanks for sharing this, Shirley. Blessings in Him.