I’m afraid you might look at our family – the Pastor, his wife, and kids – and think that we’ve all arrived. You expect us to be the picture of Jesus for you, but I want you to know that we’ll fail you every time.
We’re not perfect. We haven’t arrived. We cling to Jesus daily.
Our kids are no different than yours. They throw tantrums, tell us no, make a scene in the grocery store (and at church), don’t eat their dinner, and are desperately in need of a Savior.
You see, I fear that just because we’re called to bring you the word that you might think that we don’t need it ourselves. As David Platt would say, “we need it for every breath we breathe” and you do, too.
I pray that the way we live our lives is honorable and pleasing to Him, but I know I’m not always holy and blameless. I argue with my husband and get angry at my kids. I need Jesus daily and so do you!
You see, I fear that because we’ve been called into a position of authority that you might think that we live perfect lives; that our sanctification is complete. Jesus is the only perfect One, let Him be the one you look up to, not me!
When my kids act up in church or I look like I’ve been run ragged on Sunday morning, just know that we’re human too. Give me a hug and point my kids to Jesus because He’s the source of strength we all need.
We teach our kids the scriptures, read them the Bible, take them to church, and teach them right from wrong, but the one thing we can’t give them is a new heart; only Jesus can do that.
When we stood before you and dedicated them to the Lord you promised to help lead them, too. They might be PK’s, but they need Jesus too!
So promise me that you won’t ever look at my family and expect us to be the picture of perfection for you. Promise me that you won’t ever expect something from us that you wouldn’t expect for yourself.
And promise that you’ll always remember that pastors, their wives, and their kids need Jesus; just like you!

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Love this! <3
Thank you for this .
Beautiful. Sharing this with my pastor and church, they are going to love this.
I am so fortunate that my kiddo’s after-school sitter is our pastor’s eldest daughter, so I get to see these wonderful people in all degrees of normal-ness. And my son and their son act like brothers and fuss around with each other and say not-so-nice things and I get to see how they handle it. I tell you what it makes me respect them so much more. They are very “real” to me and I love that.
So true!
A+, Christine! Well said! I work for a church and I feel like there are some people who do expect me to be perfect because of where I work. I need Jesus just like everyone else! Proud of you for standing your ground in a kind, and Godly way.
Amen, really well written. Tara.
Yup!!! My friend was sharing that she was disappointed in a member of our covenant community because she said a mean thing. Then someone pointed out, “We are not in community because we are perfect. We are here because we need Jesus.” We all need Him to point the way! Blessings to you! Patsy from
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