I need prayers for patience, friends!! As I stated in my last post, we were supposed to have a draft of our homestudy sent to us by…yesterday. Well, 5pm rolled around and, you guessed it, no homestudy!
I emailed our social worker at 5:02pm and she replied within 5 minutes stating that she’d been sick. Oh, how frustrating. Why couldn’t she have sent me an email and let me know that?
Well, she said she would have the draft to us on or before Monday….we were supposed to have the draft last week.
I’m tempted to call her supervisor on Monday. It seems like every meeting or every deadline we’ve had there’s been an issue (can we move it to next week, I’m going to be a little late, I had a family emergency, I’ve been sick…). I’m just kind of worried about the next stage in the process (referral of children) if she can’t even complete something on time that I’m aware of and holding her accountable for.
I know that all of these “glitches”, in the end, are going to cause us to cross paths with the child that God has chosen for us. But, right now, it’s just frustrating.
Forgive my complaining.
What’s your advice? Been through this yourself!?
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Ahhhh welcome to His timing and not yours. Welcome to Him being in control and not us!
However, I would put a call into her boss and just let it be known that you are concerned for deadlines being missed repeatedly. Ask to have their support in the process and that you hope as a client you can trust them to be there for you and Q!
Careful asking for God to give you patience! That’s all I’m sayin’ on that one!
Oh will He give it to you in ways you may not like! Trust me on this one! Hello Mom to 9 children!!!!
Love you bunches and praying for you to HAVE PEACE as you wait on Him!
Hugs,
Jill
Hi Christie, I’ve never been through this before, but I know about needing more patience. I will keep you in prayer concerning this.
But it’s good you’re staying on top of things with this social worker, she needs to realize you’re about your Father’s business here 😀 Well done you.
Never had this happen…..our social worker has been FANTASTIC! We have had other friends though…and they said- to be persistent. Not rude of course, but reminding them daily that you are waiting, and this is very important to you. Praying!!!!
Mom to 9 blessings is so wise and funny… “Welcome to his timing and not yours” That says it all. I pray for peace and joy while waiting on God’s timing.
I feel your pain! And I second Mom to 9 blessings – the adoption process really stretches us to let go of our own timelines, hopes, fears, & dreams. I feel I daily have to lay all these things before God as a sacrifice. It is a painful process, full of ups and downs. But when we hold our children in our arms, it will all be worth it 🙂
So sorry for your frustration. It really does make it hard to trust that she will actually get done what needs to get done. Being firm, yet polite would be my suggestion as well. There is a certain timeline where they have to get the report done…not sure what that looks like in NC though.
Hang in there…adoption is nothing if not a stretch of faith and of course patience. 🙂 Although if you ask for it He will give it to you. :O)
Blessings
Andrea
oh, this must be so frustrating to be getting so much closer to having your little one home. i will be praying that things quickly move along and that you will have strength and patience in the mean time.
aaand can i just say what a HUGE encouragement you have been to me? my mom asked me on skype yesterday who you were (after seeing a few of your comments on my blog) and i told her that you were just a ‘random blessing God chose to put in my path’. you’ve provided so much encouragement to this texan trying to survive in africa. i know God is pleased and i am so grateful!
Patience??? I think I made the mistake of praying for patience before this adoption started…
my hubs lost job midway through h.study – delayed it one month…. then finished all visits and social worker cut her pointer finger – to the BONE – delayed 2 months….. then when it was done, they realized background checks had expired, 2 more weeks….. sent into citizenship and immigration for 30 day approval – it took 117 days. My Lord – I know you are in control of the perfect timing of this adoption but it is driving me batty!!!! So my advice, just hold on and try to enjoy the ride/paper pregnancy. Accept we have no control over deadlines and time tables and try not to set ‘goals’. That way you can be pleasantly surprised when things come quicker.
AND – we’re from NC too. Small world! Originally from Lexington. Now in SC and adopting from Ethiopia.