Why Won’t You Let Me Comfort You With Scripture?

Do you understand that the scriptures are the only words that truly comfort? Join me over at Satisfaction through Christ as I discuss this.


Have you ever been in a situation when a friend or family member needed comfort? You use Scripture to try and comfort them and all they do is push it away!  If the person you are comforting is an unbeliever it is understandable that they would not receive it. God tells us in His word, “The word of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing.” 1 Corinthians 1:18. BUT, what if the one you are trying to comfort is a believer and they push it away? There is something really wrong if this happens! Look at the rest of 1 Corinthians 1:18:

But to those who are being saved it is the power of God”

Why Would You Push Scripture Away?

Let me turn the scenario in the first paragraph around. Believer, what if someone is trying to comfort you with Scripture and you shut it out or push it away? Changes things a bit doesn’t it? I would venture to say that every one of us has done this at one time or another. Not something I am proud to admit but I have.

I can think of several reasons this would happen and I think the core issue is our pride! Our flesh wants to do things on our own and our flesh does not receive the word of God. It will not and it cannot. In these times we need to push away from the flesh and listen to the Holy Spirit of God which indwells us. Pride is a product of the flesh and there are some things that it will say to us:

Pride says, ” I am a mature believer I already know what the  Scriptures teach!” Really! The scriptures teach that knowledge puffs up. 1 Corinthians 8:1

Pride Says, “I got this.” Really! The scriptures teach, “Pride comes before a fall.” Proverbs 16:18.

I could go on but I think these get straight to the point!

Why We Need To Listen To Scripture For Comfort!

There is a verse in Romans that gives three convincing points as to why we need to receive comfort from the Word of God.

“For whatever was written in earlier times was written for our instruction, so that through perseverane and the encouragement of Scriptures we might have hope.” Romans 15:4

According to this verse, the Scriptures:

  • encourage or comfort us
  •  give us hope!
  • perseverance: We keep pressing on through encouragement of the scriptures and we have hope as an anchor for our souls.

Scripture Is God Breathed

I have one point that tops all others. I am turning my heart and your heart to one main truth.  If we do not get this, nothing I say nor what the scriptures teach will matter. First, let’s read this verse and I believe you will know where I am headed.

“All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequate, equippied for every good deed.” 2 Timothy 3:16-17

The Scriptures are God’s Words,  inspired by God and given life by God. According to 1 Corinthians 1:18 the word of God is power! Power to the saved.  Salvation is not a one-time act. It is progressive. We are:

  • Saved: Regeneration/Conversion/Set Apart unto holiness
  • Being Saved: Sanctification
  • Going to be Saved: Glorification

Scripture Is Our Only True encouragement!

If I cannot receive or give the encouragement from the scriptures I have nothing to give, you have nothing to take! God and His word are really the only truth and comfort we have. I in myself have nothing to give you. But if I come to you or you come to me with Scripture we have everything to give and everything to take!

I hope and pray  these words encourage you and give you something to think about. Let’s use the word of God to comfort and lift each other up!

Do you have any verses that you could share with us about the encouragement of the scriptures? I would love to hear them!


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I am Lisa. I am blessed to be married to my high school sweetheart, Roy. Through some ups and downs, God has blessed us with three beautiful children, Andrew, Sarah, and Hannah. God has also blessed us by divinely placing another beautiful young woman in our lives. On June 13th, 2015, our son Andrew married Katie, giving me and Roy another daughter. We could not be happier! Lisa now homeschools Sarah and Hannah. God has placed a desire in her heart to study His word. Lisa has a passion for knowing God and grow in her relationship with Jesus Christ. She wants to know the truth of the Word and to share that truth with you. Lisa desires to walk with women of all ages through a study of God’s word by offering free Bible studies and encouragement through prayer and weekly blog posts. You can follow Lisa on Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, and google + . Lisa blogs at www.conformingtothetruth.com


  1. says

    I do believe the Scripture is really comforting. I have ran to the Word of God for times when I needed it the most and it’s all the comfort I need. It’s amazing.

  2. says

    I totally agree with what you are saying. Can it be pride…yes. But when I was in excruciating pain when my son died, hearing someone just parrot what they thought would help was..well…annoying. What made Jobs friends effective was their time. Their care. A listening ear. Just being present was enough. So many times people would think they had the answers when they had never experienced burying a child. Crying with me meant they were walking this journey with me. And when people put Jesus’s skin on….that is comfort.

  3. says

    I have often seen people use scripture out of context or use the wing scripture at the wrong time during the grieving process mostly due to the speakers lack of understanding of the situation or lack of empathy. It’s understandable on these situations to see push back. But when someone uses the correct scripture, it can do a lot of good.

    • says

      Thank you for your insight, Joseph! Unfortunately many use scripture out of context and end up not being a help! Yes!! When it is used correctly, praise God for it!

  4. says

    I am so sorry for your loss! I have lost a child myself, very early in pregnancy, so I can relate to a degree. I agree with you Emily! Having someone just being there is a great comfort! My point was not to do away with someone being there I was just trying to say God’s word is our comfort and we need to be careful not to push it away. I am thankful you had people rally around you to comfort and support you! What would we do without God given friends! Thank you for you comment! God Bless!

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