Game Changing Habits to Teach Your Child
I may be a new mom (my daughter is just 10 months old) but I already know of some integral habits I want my child to learn from observing my husband and I. While verbal communication aids much in the development of a child, I believe that non verbal cues and leading by example are paramount in teaching a child. We’ve all heard the phrase, “Do as I say, not as I do”. Let’s face it–we are wired to model behavior we observe. In my experience, hypocrisy (as indicated by the aforementioned phrase) does not generally produce the desired result. I believe the phrase, “Actions speak louder than words” holds more weight. Below are some game changing habits that I hope to instill in my daughter by way of my actions.
GAME CHANGING HABITS:
1. Communicate effectively.
Recently I have noticed that sometimes I am not the most articulate. Make sure when you are communicating with someone that you don’t assume they know what is swirling around in your brain! Ask questions when clarification is necessary. Make sure that your listener understands you. Repeat your interpretation of what someone is telling you. Your child will learn to do the same and will be a more effective communicator because of these practices.
2. Practice patience.
When you spill milk on the floor, practice patience. You may avoid slipping because of it. When you are stuck in traffic, practice patience. You may avoid a wreck because of it. When your child is fussy, practice patience. You may bring them greater comfort because of it. After all, practicing patience won’t hurt you but it could help you.
3. Be present in the moment.
Enjoy the time you spend with your child, your husband, your family, your friends. Put the phone down and give them your undivided attention. This is a real confidence booster for people. Don’t you like it when you feel that your company is ENOUGH?
4. Pray unceasingly.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says: “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” Pray in the car on the way to the doctor’s appointment. Pray before going out of town. Pray before making a big decision. Pray whenever, wherever. about whatever! Prayer will open the door for a relationship to bloom between your child and Jesus. What greater gift can your child receive than to know Jesus?
5. Go to church.
Even when you don’t feel like it, go anyway! Having sisters in Christ to do life with is so important! These are the people you want praying for you and giving you biblical advice when necessary. Community and fellowship are important for your emotional and spiritual growth. **Small caveat: make sure you attend a biblically sound church.**
I hope these tips have challenged and encouraged you. Remember that one of the best ways you can teach your child is to SHOW him/her! What positive habits have you instilled in your child by example?