R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Honoring Your Husband

RESPECT Your Husband - (It's a good thing!) | Satisfaction Through Christ

“You need to stop talking to your husband like that or you will end up without a husband,” said our therapist to me about 6 years ago. That’s right, I was verbally abusive to my husband; I talked down to him, and I surely did not respect him.

Ladies, LISTEN to me!! I desperately implore you to RESPECT your husband EVEN if you feel like he does not deserve it! After all, you want him to LOVE you even when you don’t deserve it!  AmIright?  Feelings are sneaky and fleeting.  In today’s hedonistic society, we are told to do what feels right, do what feels good.  Sometimes the right thing does feel good, but oftentimes it doesn’t.  Sometimes the right thing is to put someone else first or forgive them even though they don’t deserve it.  Remember “WWJD”?  Leave room for God to vindicate you (Romans 12:19).  You won’t regret it; but you  may regret giving in to your feelings.

Eight years ago, my husband and I brought baggage into our marriage, and our unhealthy coping mechanisms reared their ugly heads.  We had pure and honest intentions regarding a committed, Christ centered marriage, but we didn’t have any real life examples of a godly marriage to follow.  We didn’t have any mentors, and we certainly didn’t have any people in our lives that were transparent regarding the struggles that are present even in Christian marriages.  Pretty soon after we got married (the day after we got back from our honeymoon to be exact), my husband suggested that getting married was a mistake and we should apply for an annulment.  Yes, you read that correctly.  It took almost 2 years to convince him to go to counseling with me, and I had to go on my own for months before he even considered it.  He finally got to the point where he realized we were not going to make it, and he decided to put his last bit of effort into counseling.  We chose a Christian marriage therapist that was licensed and legit and began our journey back to loving each other with a godly love.  I am so grateful that Christ makes all things new (2 Corinthians 5:17)!

Honoring Your Husband

I can honestly say that it took several years of therapy, desperate prayers, dying to self, and lots of change on my part before my husband really started to make a consistent effort to rebuild what we had torn down so quickly!  I had to prove to him that my changes were permanent!  There were times when I felt angry that I was trying so hard and he wasn’t, but again, that was for God to handle not for me.  After all, honoring my husband was a practical way in which I could also honor God.  I remember when we celebrated our 4 year anniversary, I FINALLY felt like we might make it!  Our marriage might actually last!

In a few months we will celebrate our 8 year anniversary!  We had our first child last November, and she is our promise from God fulfilled.  God has showed up and showed off in our lives in ways that even nonbelievers can’t deny.  God has turned our marriage into our testimony–for His glory!

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Let me close by saying this:  a healthily functioning marriage is not for the faint of heart.  It’s also not for the proud.  Sometimes marriage tastes like a gritty, bitter piece of humble pie.  So if you are struggling in your marriage right now and feeling hopeless, know that God can restore even your desperate situation.  Let Him work in you first.

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Lauren is a wife to an awesome man of God and a new mommy to a fearfully and wonderfully made princess! She also has two fur children, Hank and Lola. Lauren graduated from LSU with a Bachelor of Arts in English. She has been a writer as long as she can remember and wants to use her gift to glorify God. Lauren believes in the power of the Word and wants to encourage all believers with practical and biblical wisdom. Lauren is blessed to be able to stay home with her daughter full time! She loves to attend church, write, read, and sleep in her spare time.

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Comments

  1. says

    🙂 Love this! So many people do not respect their husbands! It’s a long road with each other and more people need to learn to respect each other instead of talking each other down! Congrats on 8 years! We just hit 8 years ourselves!

  2. Haylee says

    WOW! Seriously like one of the best and honest post I have ever read on marriage. Too many people give up and never see the restoration God can do. I love how you said your child was a fulfilled promise. Really enjoyed reading this!

  3. says

    Thank you for sharing your heart with us. There is so much wisdom in this post. Many people are afraid to give up their rights, but they don’t understand that by putting each other first, everyone wins. I have been married for over 21 years and I know it isn’t easy. If you commit to the Lord first and then to your spouse secondly, your marriage cannot help but be blessed. Thanks, again!

  4. MomMaven says

    Congratulations on getting to the other side! We have been married almost 23 years and we had a very rough patch at about the 11 year mark. We went through Christian marriage counseling and came out better on the other side. God’s mercies are new every morning!

  5. says

    Thanks for sharing this, showing respect at all times can be challenging, because we are encouraged to be frank with out feelings by our peers, but showing respect goes along way to earning respect also.

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